somewhat sille, that's me!

i heard something like this over the radio and again on TV about a month back, close to Father's Day.

two celebrities were interviewed and when it came to a question about parenthood they made this similar remark: i might not be a good husband, but i am the best father to my kids.

i could only wonder, what on earth does that mean? did they think both roles are separated? that the relationship with their kids is more important than that with their wives? is making sure that their kids have enough material wealth (which was implied by one of these guys) the yardstick of being a good father?

that's just a perverted way of looking at this fatherhood thingy if you ask me.

one of these guys went thru three failed marriages, and wiki said that the other's "love life has also been a center of tabloids under the public eye". how conveniently you forgot that you subjected your kids through the hell of three failed marriages eh.

if you wanna proclaim about how good a Dad you are, what about letting them witness how much you love your other half -- how you treat and respect her, how you fulfill the vows you've made. and for us Christians, what about showing them what it's like to love God wholeheartedly. and the list goes on. (don't even let me get started on good-for-nothing abusive dads)

let your life be the testimony.
let your kids give the testimonies.

it's really easy to delude yourselves of the notion that you are a good father. and trying to convince us so with your own words, but it's not unlike the ego-stroking act of masuk bakul angkat sendiri. 

mm, simpan ajelah.